The way you talk (saying I don’t vs I can’t) can make achieving goals easier
Knowing the right choices is only half the war, making those choices is the other half. Faced with things you know are bad for you need to be able to refuse or you will struggle to ever achieve your goals.
How you talk to your self has a big impact on those choices. A study focusing specifically on this has found that people who say “I Don’t” vs saying “I Can’t” when faced with temptation, are able to refuse more often.
This type of language empowers you and completely changes your perspective. The word “Can’t” implies a desire to but a refusal that requires will power. The word “Don’t” on the other hand goes to your core identity. Saying “I don’t eat meat” identifies you as someone who doesn’t eat meat, while saying “I can’t eat meat” is more likely someone who wants to but because of diet or will power tries not to.
Start to implement this in your life by facing every temptation with a conscious re-write. When you catch your self saying “I Can’t” stop and change it. Do it about 20 times and you will rewire your internal dialog and find achieving your goals a little easier.